Dear Chris,

We are being inundated with interviews, videos, etc and it really has become sickening. As many of you know I love music and can usually separate the music from the person but this situation seems to be irritating the heck out of me and here's why?

I know that both of them are young and prayerfully have a long life ahead of them. I also know that they have a career to think about but I often wonder if anyone in either of their camps sat them down and told them to think about the bigger picture. Unfortunately the bigger picture is not their career, being a spokesperson for domestic violence, donating money, being a role model for others, or even moving on (I'll explain this one later). It is so much more important that they gain more knowledge about themselves, their behaviors and learn how to love themselves. All of thee above takes time; time that neither have spent. Instead it appears that the only time they have spent is strategically planning how they were going to repair their celebrity status and/or image. It saddens me to think (and I really hope I'm wrong) that people care more about the dollar than they do about life lessons. Better yet, it saddens me to think that people no longer care about character. I guess that is how it is though when you are surrounded by people who depend on your career to put food in their mouths. But in my opinion, it speaks volume to even their character.

So often during this media frenzy over Chris Brown and Rhianna I have wished that I could have offered Chris some advice. Since I know that will never happen I figured I could write my blog and at least get it off of my chest (sort of speak).

That brings me to this, what I would have said:

It is hard to listen to all of these interviews because you know that part of it is scripted and made with one goal in mind: to salvage your career. So while it may be good to hear that you are sorry and are doing things to make sure that it doesn't happen again, filtering the truth is hard. Only you and God truly know if that is really the case. Nevertheless, the forgiveness of your fans shouldn't be what you are seeking right now and your priorities are mixed up. There are times in life that we are issued a second chance and when we are we have to make sure that we do right by them. It is NEVER enough to just get passed an incident we are required to do more --like making sure we learn from them. This takes time and attention; attention that may cause you to be away from things and people that you may love and care about. Money can come and go but character...character stands the test of time and is always more important than the last. I realize that others may care about you but their caring apparently isn't greater than the need to take care of "their needs". To sum it all up, it can only a testimony after the test has been passed.

Anyhow, that's my take on whole thing and now I can bury it. I wish the both of them love and healing. Even though they've chosen a different way of doing it, for whatever reasons right or wrong, I hope that they don't let the second chance be a failure.

Agape never fails, have you shown it today?